Meredith--This just keeps getting better. Thank you.

great job- I love reading about certian stories have touched you. Keep up the wonderful work you do!

Thank you Meredith. I myself have had 3 miscarriages in 3 years and I am now 28 weeks pregnant with my 5th. (we have a 4 year old daughter) Thank you for sharing your story and I totally agree, it is so nice to have someone that truly understands your grief and loss-no matter how far along in the pregnancies you were, a loss is a loss, and it's a process to grieve. The comments are always hard, but it helps to know there are people out there that are in your shoes and truly understand where you were and how you got where you are now. Amazing story. Thanks again for sharing your heart.

How eloquently put.

I had a miscarriage in my first marriage - and everyone said after the marriage disolved (a generous description) - "Wasn't it for the best?"

While experience infertility in my present (and last)marriage - we opted to adopt domestically - and when we found out I was pregnant - we were met with "That always happens."

My son is now 2.5 and we are awaiting a baby from Korea - and people still say "What if you receive your baby and you get pregnant?"

You can only imagine that I have a few choice words for that question.

Thanks again - huge fan!

I am so touched by this blog... thank you for sharing everyday with all of us.

Meredith, that was an amazing story with such a happy ending. Thank you for sharing your personal stories with us. Your son Gabe's comments about your miscarriages were just wonderful. It's no wonder Gabe is learning to be supportive with a Mom like you. And his comment was very true.

As an aside, thank you for letting us know that the identity of the flight instructor of Cory Lidle's plan had yet to be identified, I was concerned about their family too and was beginning to wonder why they were not giving a name. You are simply the best!!!!

Thank you for your story Meredith, and for sharing from your heart. I had four miscarriages due to low progesterone before successfully carrying my (soon to be 1 year old) daughter. I wanted to share a small non-profit that is striving to help those grieving a stillborn child. This couple lost their daughter while in utero (almost full term) and have first hand knowledge of things that would have helped them to remember her better and help get closure. The website is http://www.asmallvictory.org/.

Thank you!!

:-)Kim

I'm amazed that you can find the time to do this and with such wisdom and having your own experiences makes it even more real. I too had a miscarriage when my first child Shawn was just a little more than a year old. If it weren't for looking at his tiny face I might not have handled as well as I did. Looking back on it now I see it as that child that I lost was my daughter Samantha who was just not ready to come into the world for whatever reason. When I told her this she was wise beyond her years with her thoughts. Which doesn't surprise me my children have had to experience some heavy duty subject matter. My husband too, has Colorectal Cancer stage 4 and they've become even more mature and have endured more than some adults. Everything happens for a reason in my book and I don't question why did I lose that child because I know that when god has a plan for me it's not up to me to question just have faith that he knows why.

Thanks again Meredith for sharing your heart with us. What your son Gabe said to you (at age 8) was so touching!!
It's great to read stories about tragedies and loss that end with happiness and hope.
You are a real inspiration to us all. Thanks again for being you.

What Gabe said is so true. I had a miscarriage in late March 2005. In May 2005, I learned I was pregnant again - surprisingly quickly after my miscarriage. I know had I not lost that pregnancy in March, I wouldn't have my little Annie - who is definitely "the perfect fit" in our family. I had a friend say that Annie is the "perfect ray of sunshine to your family after your period of darkness" and she is right.

Thanks for a bloody good and inspiring story. I'm a father whose spouse lost four to miscarriages before having two absolutely terrific kids. Nice to know that there are still some pretty terrific people on the loose.

Thanks, also, Meredith, for being so forthright about your priorities. It just might kick a few people back on track to genuine happiness.

I've always watched the show since I started working at home. You've kicked it up to a new level and I love the blend of thoughtful interviews and insights with your delightfully daft sense of humour.

you're so real...........good on Today

Thank you for sharing your story, Meredith. When I lost my twin sons at 14 weeks, even my best friend said something that crushed me. It was a very difficult time and I nearly had a breakdown. Heck, maybe I did in some way... it was one of the absolute worst times in my life. There are no words that will make anyone suffering a loss feel better. I wish people would allow themselves to be comfortable with simply listening and holding a grieving friend's hand.

Merideth, thank you for sharing your story. I had 4 miscarriages (2 ruptured ectopic)but was blessed with four children who are doing wonderfully. I felt so alone going through it all as no one else I knew had suffered losses. Thank you for being so open and sharing such a personal story. I'm willing to bet you've helped a lot of women going through this to cope knowing that someone else has made it through.

With tears in my eyes, I thank you for sharing your stories and experiences with us all. Perhaps your wise words will inspire someone who doesn't know what to say to a grieving couple to simply reach out a hand in love.

A dear friend of mine suffered recurrent miscarriages - and it's amazing to me how she kept on going.

Many of the women in my family have had miscarriages (I've been lucky) and I remember being particularly touched by a story of my mother's aunt... She had an early, unplanned pregnancy. Unfortunately, the baby was stillborn. Even though many in the family (including her parents) thought it was for the best (an unwed mother in the 1930s would have faced so much) - she was so traumatized that she sat and cried and rocked the baby for hours and hours.

I do hope that the efforts for Jakob's rooms in hospitals - places for families to mourn their lost babies - do come to pass.

Thanks for sharing your story and your heart with us Meredith!

As someone who has suffered the ups and downs of infertily, I'm all too familiar with the "helpful" comments from family and strangers alike. Thank you for sharing your story Meredith, and the Adzichs'.

How touching this post is. I praise you for being able to try again and again after miscarriages. It takes a strong woman to be able to try and try again to have a baby.

I know from experience how special surrogate parents are. My cousin has carried babies for two couples and is trying to have a second baby for one of the couples. It is amazing that the can be so unselfish to carry a baby for nine months and then give it away. It takes a very special person to be able to do that.

Thanks for the touching words and keep up the good work, you are an amazing woman.

This needs to be printed out & hung on the walls in OB-GYN offices. Better yet, if someone in your office or group of friends miscarries, pass out the link to this entry. This is must-read advice for anyone who has ever helped a friend through a miscarriage.

I'm dealing with infertility myself. I'm lucky (I think) because very few people know that. I'm getting to the age where people have stopped asking when I'm going to have kids. Now, they act as if there's something morally wrong with me because they think I chose not to have children.

Meredith - you did a remarkable job with this interview. It really meant a lot as a viewer to hear you share about your miscarriages while you were interviewing these lovely people.

I love your show and I think you are great. I personally have never suffered a pregnancy loss, but because I developed severe preeclampsia with my first child at 24 weeks I became involved in an online community and with the help of 3 other ladies we created a website www.preeclampsia.proboards67.com to offer support, encouragement, and a place to come together for women that have dealt with a preeclamptic pregnancy.

Thank you for being so open with your viewers. You are definetly an asset on the Today show.

Lori in SC

Thanks for sharing this. I think that talking about such painful issues, really helps any who have dealt with a loss of a child, heal.

Meredith - thank you so much for sharing your story with the many (too many) women who have experienced a loss through miscarriage. Since I lost my 3rd child through miscarriage 10 months ago, I have been trying to educate my friends and family on what to say to people who are going through a loss - what they truly want to hear and DON'T want to hear, and I'm glad to see that you echo my sentiments. Let them grieve, and don't belittle their loss with comments like "it wasn't meant to be" or "you can try again". I know, for me, I wanted THAT baby, and no matter how many children I end up having afterwards, I will always fondly remember that child that I carried for 8 short but wonderful weeks. I think it's amazing what Kathy and Rob have been able to do for women who lose their children through stillbirth or infant death, and I was so happy to hear of "Jacob's Room" - what a wonderful idea. Now, I think the next step is to find some way for hospitals to comfort women who are going through miscarriages as well.

I found out early in my pregnancy that I was pregnant with fraternal twins...only to lose one of them a few weeks later. I had many (well-meaning) people tell me that there was no need to be sad, I still had a baby on the way. But a loss is a loss! Of course I love my son, but part of me will always mourn his little twin.

Thanks for the great post, Meredith.

Hi Meredith,
I love reading your blog. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. I think it will help many couples out there struggling with these same issues. I can relate, my husband and I have been struggling with infertility for a while now and finally conceived via fertility treatments. I am due with my first child. It is an emotional roller coaster, but I encourage couples facing the same obstacles to never give up!
We all miss you on The View, Meredith!! Do you keep in touch with the ladies?

I watched that story on the Today show and cried for Kathy and Rob and was so happy that they had a special person step up and give them what they wanted so badly.

I am so sorry for your losses, Meredith. I can only imagine what it is like to experience a miscarriage or have a stillborn child, but being a mother of 2 healthy children, I know how much they mean to my life and to lose them would be devestating.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I am enjoying your blogs so much.

What a touching entry! Thank you for sharing Kathy and Rob's story as well as your own.

Thanks so much for sharing your experience. I have a 3 year old, but have had 2 miscarriages since. At first my thoughts were God is saying not now. But I think we are getting to the point of it being never another. I turn 45 in two weeks and part of me is glad and another part is very sad. I come from a family of 5 and always envisioned more than one child. But it seems my plan and Gods are different. We love our daughter and try to stay focused in living for today and not missing any oportunity. But seeing that story the other day left me incredibly sad but also extremely grateful that they and you would share your personal experiences. One of the great myths is getting pregnant is easy and the harder part is carrying it to term is easy.
thanks

Welcome to iVillage blogging, Meredith, from a fellow iVillage blogger! I thought that segment was excellent. I love that you guys are doing longer stories these days on Today. Keep up the good work!

hi meredith, i have to say that this is your most personal entry yet. my mom probably could relate from your experience because she has suffered a miscarriage before she had my younger brother. i wish that i would not experience the same thing, but if i do, i'll remember what you said. anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts to the world. :)

This was such a touching story. Thanks Meredith.

Dear Meredith,
I could only imagine what you had to go through. My mom could probably relate to your experience because she has suffered a miscarriage before my younger brother was born. I wish to God that it would not happen to me. Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts to the world--this is your most personal entry yet.

Thank you, Meredith, for sharing a very private part of your life with us. I suffered several miscarriages, at various lengths of pregnancy, and it was devastating. Is still devastating, even though I now have other children. I heard it all - "At least you lost it now rather than later!" or "You have other children, why does it matter so much?" and "Stop trying, be satisfied with what you have." People are heartless. If more people like you opened up and shared the pain, maybe there would be more awareness. Keep up the great work, we all appreciate your candor!

Great story! It amazes me the lengths people will go to to help others.

Meredith, thank you for sharing this touching story and your own personal experiences. You've brought strength, hope and caring to so many who are in need.

What a truly inspiring story and what a gift!! How lucky and blessed all involved must feel.

Thank you for sharing your personal experiences with this important story about the Adzichs and their guardian angel. I think many people just don't understand how devastating miscarriage is and make heartless comments without meaning to.

Such a truly amazing and touching story. Thank you for sharing it with us through Today.

I really enjoyed reading both stories! I can only imagine the pain both you and Kathy and your husbands went through. My heart goes out to both families. I am so glad to hear that your story had a beautiful ending! Thanks for sharing such personal intimate details of your life!

You are such a wonderful improvement to the Today Show. Thanks for all you do!

what a wonderful story! It's great to know that there are so many people in the world who are good-hearted and willing to help others. Very inspiring!

Merridith, I cried over this story, then I read the wedding story, and I cried again. I cried watching the wedding also. What is going on? Thank you for sensitivity - you are wonderful. Mary Kaye

This was one of the first honest, well thought segments I've watched in a long time in regards to miscarriage, recurrent pregnancy loss and infertility. After suffering from 1 ectopic, 1 missed miscarriage and 7 chemical pregnancies in the last year I can relate to pregnancy loss. Unfortunately we haven't yet been blessed with our own little miracle, but seeing and hearing stories like Kathy and Rob's helps to keep us going. Again thank you from both my husband and myself - we plan on having our family watch the segment so that they too can learn a bit as to what is not appropriate to say to us when we've just told them of a loss.

Meredith,
As I watched your interview, I wept. I wept for the couple who lost their 3 beloved sons, I wept for myself, as I knew exactly how they felt, as I have experienced two miscarriages within the past 10 months, I wept for the family my husband and I continue to try and make, and I wept for the strength that you showed when you announced on national TV that you have experienced 5 miscarriages of your own. You will never know how much that meant to the many women viewers who watch you every day and realize what an amazing, strong woman you are. The day after watching this episode, I found out that I am again pregnant, only 4 weeks along right now. So scared, so terrified of losing another part of me, but realizing that I am not alone out there. Thank you for giving me some courage to face this head-on, I am trying my best to keep faith and hope that "maybe this time", my miracle will come.

You are an amazing woman, thank you for showing your human, compassionate side to all of your fans. God bless.

Hi Meredith,
I was just wondering if you found any reason for your 5 miscarriages that enabled you to go on to have 3 beautiful children. I have had 3 (very early) miscarriages and cannot find any reason. I appreciate any additional insight that you could share. Thank you so much for opening up like that on the show. The hardest part of all of this is feeling so isolated and you opened the lid and let some light in and let all of us that are suffering know that we are not alone. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Meredith I also am glad this story was on The Today Show...our daughter had two miscarriages and each time was told to go home and wait! She now has two beautiful children. I went to look for a website on Jacobs Room, to find out more info. Is there a site? Thank you.

dear meredith, i watched that segment and was very touched by it. i also was touched that you were willing to share your story of 5 miscarriages. i am desperately seeking positive news after just having suffered a second missed m/c (3.5 weeks ago).

what has helped me is to read about those women like yourself who have suffered multiple miscarriages and went on to have several children. i have a wonderful son who i conceived after my first missed m/c. after this m/c, my doc is now recommending we start looking into what 'could be wrong' -

its funny how after my first m/c i thought my desire for children would be somewhat satiated if i 'just had one'. but in fact, having one son almost increased my desire for more children and i feel as bad about this m/c as i did the last one.

for those of you who have had multiple m/c but went on to have more children - i would be curious to know if you ever looked into why these things kept happening.

thanks

Thank you Meredith for sharing this important story.

Meredith,
Your story has touched my heart and given me hope. Reading all the comments has helped me to think about the future and know that it is possible for me to give birth. I have had four losses ranging from 5Weeks to 8 Weeks. All of my losses have taken place in one year. As my husband and I are very blessed with getting pregnant, we have had a hard time keeping the pregananies. Currently I am 12W 4 Days pregnant and holding my breath everyday. So far to keep this pregnancy I have been taking 6ooMG of progesterone suppostories, one shot of Lovenox a day, baby aspirin, high dose of folic acid and other vitamins. It has been working and I would do more if it mean that my husband and I finally get to hold a baby in our arms. Every time before I go to my doctors I say a little pray in my car. "Dear God, please let Chris and I take this sweet little one home in our arms instead of in our heart."
Thank you for posting about this becuase so many people do not want to talk about miscarriage.

Just wanted to say that I am sorry for your losses. I have lost 3 babies this past year and it is always difficult. We are still hoping to conceive #1. Thank you for being the voice for some many of us suffer from our 'hidden loss' and trying to help others understand that 'it's for the best' is not the most helpful response. Best wishes to you and your beautiful family.

just wanted to say thank you for sharing you story.Somedays i feel so alone.I have been blessed with 2 children.We have been trying for a 3rd.I have had 2 miscarriages in 6 mos and was feeling kind of hopeless.Everyone i know,even my own Mom thinks it shouldn't hurt as much because,i have 2 children.And have made comments like it was for the best,it wasn't the right time,it was Gods will.I don't know why they think this helps.Thanks for sharing it gives me great hope.

Meredith,

Your story touched my heart. I have 2 girls (ages 12 & 6) & have had 4 m/c's in the last 3 years. I am currently 21 weeks pregnant. I pray everyday that this baby is going to make it. It is such a hard emotional time to go through Recurrent losses. Talking with other women who have had the similar experiences has really helped me. They truly understand how devistating it is & have never said to "get over it" or "it wasn't meant to be." They have allowed me to grieve in my own way. Most days I am okay but some days it still hurts as though it was yesturday. I think of my lost angel babies everyday. I hope they know how much they are loved & missed.

Meredith-
When i saw this story on Today i was enthralled. Ive suffered 4 m/c's and still trying to have that baby. Im only 25 and losing hope. When i heard you had 5 m/c's i knew you had 3 kids and that gave me soo much hope! Thank you so much for sharing your story along with Kathy and Robs.
One last thing: Did they ever find the reason for the m/c's?

Meredith, thank you so very much for sharing Kathy and Rob's story, along with your own. It's unfortunate, but I think that society downplays a miscarriage way too often and too quickly. I experienced a miscarriage with our first child this last June. It was the most painful experience I've ever had. Hearing people say things like "you're ruining your life grieving over a pregnancy that never was" and "put yourself in someone else's shoes- like people who lost an actual child" make me entirely sick. I've had friends say that to me, and it was extremely difficult to hear. I hope to God they never have to know how I feel, despite what they may think of how I'm dealing with losing a child. Knowing that people such as yourself are putting yourself out there makes me feel so understood - it comforts those of us who have had a miscarriage, and educates those who haven't. Thank you again, for sharing your story!

Thank you for the touching story. It helps to know there are others out there with recurrent losses. I have had losses at 8 wks, 11wks, 13 wks, 17 wks and 23 wks for a total of 6 babies (twins). Strangely, I still have hope - possibly a fool's hope but nonetheless it is there. Life has been a struggle for quite awhile. I find VERY FEW people provide support or let you grieve. Thanks for spreading greater understanding regarding pregnancy loss.

Meredith, thank you for sharing your story of personal loss.M/c is so misunderstood.
I too suffered m/c and didnt know why. While researching the net I came across the name of a Dr. In CA named Alan E. Beer. To make a long story short, I flew out from MA to meet him, altho I didn't have to he has cliets all over the world! In any event I met him and instantly knew he could help me. His specialty? Reproductive IMMUNOLOGY, something many people have never heard of.After receiveing treatment from this wonderful Dr, I delivered healthy twin boys on 3/9/04!
The most unfortunate thing about this story? This wonderful Dr. passed away this year suddenly, however his work and his legacy go on! Before his untimely death, he co-authoured a book titled"Is your Body Baby Friendly?"It is due to be released 12/06 by Amazon. This would make a fantastic story for the today show.Women who have given up on having children but have found a saving grace in this Dr and his center- which goes on today with Dr. Stricker.

Meredith,
Thank you for sharing your story. I lost 2 pregnancies within 6 months of eachother. My first loss was almost 1 year ago and was an ectopic pregnancy. I found out months later that I was pregnant again only to miscarry exactly 6 months to the day from my first loss. You have always been an inspiration to me, and now even more so. Thank you for informing the world about the real pain and grief we feel from a miscarriage. Although we may have only been pregnant for a few weeks, we love our little angels as if they were born. Keep up the good work!
~Jen

Meredith,

Thank you for sharing your experience with the public. You are doing a tremendous service to grieving parents everywhere who feel alone in their time of loss. I suffered three losses and I do what I can to be of support and comfort to other grieving parents. I recently published a book, "Forever Our Angels," which is a collection of first-person stories of loss. I felt alone during each of my losses and I had nowhere to turn for support. My goal in writing this book is to make sure that no one else feels alone in their grief. Thank you once again for sharing your story. All the best to you, Hannah Stone

Hannah.stone@sbcglobal.net

Meredith, thank you for sharing your story. it is so impactful that someone in your position can speak up about this difficult subject. I myself have suffered 4 miscarriages in a row- one was a suspected molar pregnancy (cancer). That was the lowest I have ever felt in my life. We are blessed to have a one year old daughter now- beating all odds and overzealous RE's who told me to give up (and use donor egg or adopt). I am now having to gain that stregnth again since I am dealing with secondary infertility (infertility after having a child)- I was so hoping to have a break and skip the suffering. Unfortunately, secondary infertility is also extremely painful- even if you have one little blessing (which we never ever ever forget)..
Many hugs, Marie

Meredith - thanks as well for sharing your experience with us - I lost my baby at 38 weeks - today was my due date and I am still grieving - my husband and I are still in disbelief but are trying our best to move on - Before this I had a miscarriage at 2 weeks of pregancy - then moved on to a fertility treatment for almost a year that led me to my recent pregancy of 38 weeks in which lost my daughter who was stillborn. Now that you are at the Today Show I would love to see a clip or research on stillborn cases and the possible causes for them since it seems they are unknown many times.

Meredith-thank you for sharing your story. I lost a baby very early, but it was certainly a big loss for me. We haven't been able to get pregnant since then. Reading other peoples stories helps me to power on.

Merideth,
I unfortunately did not get to see your show on miscarriages but I have to tell you that I couldn't have come across this site at a better time. I have an almost 5 year old son and my husband and I have been trying for a second and have suffered 3 early miscarriages in the past year and a half. I too, have heard every possible piece of advice about how I should feel. Especially since I HAVE one. Unfortunately people don't realize the hurt it brings unless it has happened to them and they don't understand how you can be upset about something you never saw or felt. The fact of the matter is, is that I wanted ALL of them and each one has brought its own heartache and grief but I still feel it in my heart to keep trying as I am only 28. Knowing that there are others out there who have gone through the same thing is comforting as you tend to feel alone. I will never forget my three little angels and only hope that we will be blessed again. Thank you Merideth for your courage and inspiration! Truly!

Meredith: I love the Today show. You, Matt, Al, and Anne are THE BEST. I look forward to seeing you each day.

As for the comments people make during the loss of a precious child, I know how it hurts. Back in 1973 I lost a baby girl who lived for less than a day and a half. She is still in my heart and always will be. Blessings from "Bama". Your loyal fan, AC

Meredith, Thank you so much for sharing. My father just passed this along to me and I was very touched. I can relate from a personal side having lost a baby, gone through infertility, and finally being blessed with twin boys followed by another boy. I have also been touched from a professional side. As a labor and delivery nurse, your story and the comments that have followed, have inspired me to make some changes on our unit.
I hope you have a blessed and healthy New Year.

Meredith, as someone who has experienced four miscarriages and one successful pregnancy (my beautiful daughter), your story gives me hope and your strength inspires me not to give up, but keep trying. Children are blessings and are worth the looooong wait some of us have to endure.

Meredeth,
Thank you so much for making me laugh today! After two awful night's sleep, a head cold, and another day ahead of craziness with four kids and a husband out of town, I really needed a good laugh.
In the process of reading, I also connected with you on many levels. I am also a Capricorn with a black thumb. My 14 year old daughter often confiscates my plants to her room to save their little lives. I also have a son, Gabriel. He's just 5 years old this year and a sensitive and thoughtful young soul like your son. Finally, I was once a newshound at Boston's WHDH-TV. During that time I was pregnant with my first child (the 14 year old plant doctor) when you decided the take some time off and be home with your children. You took a lot of flack for that among women in the media who believed you were setting back women's lib or something. I applauded you then and I hope you're enjoying the last laugh now.
God Bless you, Meredeth.

I always loved watching the Today show, but your down to earth presence is like a breath of fresh air each morning. I feel you relate to all of the people you report about. You truly feel their joys as well as their hurts and speak from your heart. Thanks for being such an inspiration, in both your professional and personal life.

You have helped more women than you can imagine by sharing your story of 5 lost pregnancies today. You have given millions of women hope including myself. I have suffered one miscarriage (fairly early in my first pregnancy) about 4 weeks ago, and this will be a tremendous help with the healing process. Thank you so much for shedding light on a topic that is considered taboo in the media. I am truly greatful for your strength.

My daughter had trouble with endometriosis and was told at the tender age of 19 by a Dr. Go home, finsh your college , get a good jo, because you won't be able to have children. Needless, to say her dad andI were ready to put the gloves on. so, we bundled her up took her to a Specialist in a neaby town. And, now at the age of 31. She has a beautiful blue-eyed,blonde haird 4YEAR OLD!!!!!!!!!!! GOD WORKS IN MYTERIOUS WAYS!!!!!!!!!
Papa and Nana watch her grow and play on our farm in West Virginia!

I read your article in Parade magazine this past weekend, where I found out about your five miscarriages. I was saddened to hear of your loss and at the same time happy that you remained strong and have three healthy children. I myself have had three miscarriages in the past 18 mos. and still hope that one day my husband and I will be able to become parents of a healthy child of our own. I have read the stories on your blog and am saddened by how many women have faced a miscarriage. I am also given strength from those that have been able to have a child despite the losses. I know I will never give up on trying and pray that happy times are yet to come. I hold on to the hope of being able to be called mom one day. Thank you for understanding the pain that is undiscribable and causing awarness to something very painful that for some reason no one has the answer as to WHY?it happens. God Bless